Friday, February 15

Do you know them?

The Belittler
Belittlers routinely tear others down in order to build themselves up. Put-downs, demeaning remarks and disparaging comments are common trademarks of this person.

Coping strategy: Your confidence is the Belittler’s weakness, and he or she will back off if you stand up for yourself. Try refuting a Belittler’s criticism by asserting yourself, using facts where possible. For example, if he or she puts down one of your ideas, say, “It’s something that’s worked for X, Y and Z, and it also is more cost-effective than what we’re doing now.”

The Credit Thief
Insecure about their status, Credit Thieves boldly steal your ideas and grab the glory when a project is successful. Curiously, they’re nowhere to be found when things go wrong.

Coping strategy: Keep a written record of your activities and accomplishments, and give your manager regular status reports about the projects you’re working on. And don’t hesitate to correct misperceptions. (“Actually, I did the research; John helped input the data.”
The Noisemaker
Be it making long personal calls, forgetting to silence their cell phone ringers, playing music or talking with others using their “outside voice,” Noisemakers can’t help but disturb others.

Coping strategy: Do your best to insulate yourself from the sound. If you have a private office, close your door. If you work in a cubicle, try putting on headphones or moving to an empty office where you can concentrate in silence. If the situation persists, speak to the person and kindly ask him or her to keep the noise down, explaining that it’s preventing you from getting your work done.

The Saboteur
Saboteurs have a knack for leaving colleagues in the lurch. Similar to Belittlers, they like to make others look bad. Their tactics aren’t always overt, so you may not realize you’re working with a Saboteur until a critical deadline arrives. That’s when you discover you’re unable to complete your part of the project because the Saboteur has withheld important information.

Coping strategy: Be sure your supervisor or project manager knows the roles and responsibilities of each team member, and insist on regular progress reports so that Saboteurs can’t take advantage of lapses in oversight.

The Rumor monger
Rumor mongers like drama and often spread half-truths or lies by talking behind others’ backs. This is an especially dangerous type of co-worker because he or she has the ability to tarnish your reputation.

Coping strategy: The best defense is to avoid engaging in any kind of mean-spirited gossip. Remember, if you can’t say anything good, don’t say anything at all. If the Rumor monger starts swapping stories with you, avoid falling into the trap and instead excuse yourself as quickly as possible.

The Slacker
This person may try to pass off tasks to other staff members. The Slacker often claims he or she is “too busy” to help out, yet will make time for long chats and Web surfing during office hours.

Coping strategy: If you lead a project team, be sure this person carries his or her weight by documenting the responsibilities of each member of the group and asking for regular status reports. Hold everyone accountable for their portion of the project, and be firm with deadlines.

The Prairie Dog
There’s nothing quite as distracting -- or, at times, alarming -- as when an individual pops his or her head over your cubicle wall, seemingly out of nowhere, or drops by your desk unannounced. It typically happens when you’re on deadline or just about to write down a brilliant idea.

Coping strategy: Let the person know that, while you’d like to talk, you have a lot to do at the moment. If possible, schedule another time to meet, such as during lunch or after work. And, to prevent further interruptions, consider hanging a sign outside the entrance to your workspace, notifying people that you’re busy and when you’ll be available again.

If one of these descriptions reminds you of yourself, it might be time to re-evaluate your own behavior and adjust it as necessary. Remember, when it comes to working in an office environment, the more you respect others’ time and space, the more likely they’ll be to return the favor.
------------------------------------------------------------------------

Thursday, December 6

Crazy English

If you have not read the following article.. and if you like playing wif words..read on..

______________________________________________________________________

Crazy English

© Richard Lederer
richard.lederer@pobox.com

Verbivore

Let’s face it–English is a crazy language. There is no egg in eggplant nor ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple. English muffins weren’t invented in England or French fries in France. Sweetmeats are candies while sweetbreads, which aren’t sweet, are meat.

We take English for granted. But if we explore its paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.

And why is it that writers write but fingers don’t fing, grocers don’t groce and hammers don’t ham? If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn’t the plural of booth beeth? One goose, 2 geese. So one moose, 2 meese? One index, 2 indices? One Kleenex, 2 Kleenices?

Doesn’t it seem crazy that you can make amends but not one amend, that you comb through annals of history but not a single annal? If you have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what do you call it?

If teachers taught, why didn’t preacher praught? If a vegetarian eats vegetables, what does a humanitarian eat? If you wrote a letter, perhaps you bote your tongue?

Sometimes I think all the English speakers should be committed to an asylum for the verbally insane. In what language do people recite at a play and play at a recital? Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell? Park on driveways and drive on parkways?

How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and wise guy are opposites? How can overlook and oversee be opposites, while quite a lot and quite a few are alike? How can the weather be hot as hell one day and cold as hell another.

Have you noticed that we talk about certain things only when they are absent? Have you ever seen a horseful carriage or a strapful gown? Met a sung hero or experienced requited love? Have you ever run into someone who was combobulated, gruntled, ruly or peccable? And where are all those people who ARE spring chickens or who would ACTUALLY hurt a fly?

You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which an alarm clock goes off by going on.

English was invented by people, not computers, and it reflects the creativity of the human race (which, of course, isn’t a race at all). That is why, when the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible. And why, when I wind up my watch, I start it, but when I wind up this essay, I end it.

Taken from http://www.ldresources.org/?p=438 on 6th Dec 2007

real late updates

Finally...the long-awaited, much-anticipated time of the year.....the air suddenly smells sweeter, even though it was raining here, it feels refreshing and not at all gloomy... Phewww...mind-boggling assignments, sleepless nites, bloody tears and cranky selves will be a thing of the past... pejam-celik, pejam-celik...1st semester had passed us by...wow....it wion't be too soon to know where our postings will be (saw the new list of resource schools the other day...gigit jari sekejap..)...but that's another bridge i'll cross later..

the 3 intensive (and i do mean intensive) @DAS, had really open my eyes big-big... there are so many things needed to be done and there will be only one of us to be implementing them... my head spins and though i appreciate the experience, i have my moments of doubt...hopefully, i dun cause more harm than good...

Hasbern also just finish his exams hoping to go holiday but hasbern's got no more leave..so we'll be spending some time at home...maybe giving the home the much-needed spring-cleaning...

oh well...happy holidays to all...enjoy your vacations/rests..

*brain shutting down*

Thursday, October 11

Vrooom, vroommm....

I'm a Lamborghini Murcielago!


http://www.tomorrowland.us/sportscar/images/lambo.jpg">

You're not subtle, but you don't want to be. Fast, loud, and dramatic, you want people to notice you, and then get out of the way. In a world full of sheep, you're a raging bull.

Take the Which'>http://www.tomorrowland.us/sportscar">Which Sports Car Are You? quiz.

Monday, October 8

subhaanollah, alhamdulillah....jazaakumullah...

Kupanjatkan syukur kehadhrat Allah SWT., selawat & salam ke atas Nabi besar kita, Muhammad SAW, ahli keluarganya, sohabah2nya, imam2 & segala pengikutnya sekalian...

Where to begin? I can only be thankful & grateful to Him for giving me grace and letting me be here to continue to serve Him and be amongst my loved ones.

I am so thankful for the flood of Du'as & good wishes from family and friends and especially when i read the outpouring response from our multiply network frens whom i know personally & those I don't,thanks for your concerns, Only Allah may reward your kindness

I am doing as well as can be expected. To answer some queries: I had a few fractures mostly on my left pelvic bone but alhamdulillah after a thorough scan, I had no internal injuries & need no surgery. I was informed by the doctors that the cracks may heal completely on its own just that it will take time & I may be using walking aid for the next 2 months. I am also undergoing therapy and (trying to do) some of them @home.

I need further Du'as from everyone especially so that I have strength & patience to overcome frsutrations that I sometimes get.u know even the little things can get to me if I'm not watchful, trying to pick up something from the floor or walking the short distance to the bathroom or even remaining in a single position for long can tire me out. Family is very supportive especially Hubbi that I sometimes worry that he may be very tired from work/class/& taking care of me...Tears fell from seeing the TLC and support i get from him.. I'm also especially touched to see my NIE frens coming up and allaying my worries from the upcoming assignments and interceding to my lecturers on my behalf. My thanks also go to my understading lecturers..! of them came to see me in hospital...alhamdulillah, subhaanollah...

Aku mesti selalu beringat bahawa ada org lain yg ada di dlm keadaan lebih memerlukan dariku... Ada yg menghadapi lebih banyak ujian. Senantiasalah kita bersyukur kpd Allah SWT, berusaha utk sentiasa dapat menjalankan kewajipan kita sebaik2nya & dapat melalui segala rintangan dgn penuh sabar & redha...insyaa Allah.. Mohon semua dapat mengambil iktibar dan mendoakan kami.

As a gd fren who had visited me had said, there is always blessings in disguise. Sometimes this thing happen in order to prevent from something much bigger happening. Wallahu'Alaam...I know my perspective towards life has changed. Seeing another day, watching my beloved and able to walk even though very slow filled me with so much gratitude that I sometimes think I might burst...

Babe, I love you, take the best care of yourself & dun fret abt me... let's pray together for a full & speedy recovery.

Friday, September 28

Forgiveness in Action

I'm not condoning what you had done

I'm just trying to make peace with myself so I could move on

I am thankful for the day that you did me wrong, the days I've had ever since and the days I'll continue to have, God willing...

Saturday, September 15

[when i look in the mirror...]

Isn't it super-fast how time flies? pejam celik, pejam celik...it's been almost 2 months I've been in the maktab perguruan... amidst the hectic assignments which had bombarded me mercilessly, I am feeling the over-whelming emotions of being in the pits...for those who are not in the know, well "the Pit" usually arise after a tumultuous and OTT introduction & exposure into a particular field. In my field, well, there are loads of negativity & uncaringness from people around. People are very surprised when they asked about what i do...i tried to explain & generally they will just smile in a way that imply to me "i still dunno what you're talking abt, & i'm not as interested as i thot i was" or "i think you're just making things up & so pls shut up so i can go elsewhere & blab with sumone else"

"the Pit" is not just induced by people as mentioned above... after numerous visits to institutions... tonnes of videos & other information media that I have to digest in order to satisfy my required module, I felt so sorry for people with special needs (especially) and their families/friends..i know some may thinks it's un-PC to feel sorry for them and that the last thing in the world that they need will be people's sympathy, i can't help but felt for them...i'll be lying if i say otherwise cos that was one of the many reasons i applied for this..

I know the road in fornt of me is an unpaved one

I'm grateful to God that i am now no longer blind and deaf to things surrounding me.

Friday, August 10

=write here right now=

it's been such a long time since my last rant.. very tired to think & school had just started the last 3 days (wed cancelled, thurs holiday).. Sooo many readings in sooo little time... Maybe i shd have subscribed to thatr power reading thingy...assignments have started pouring in & i'm soaked...figuratively speaking dat is... I've been staring @the pc wondering how should i start my paper, praying for ilham..then i decided to msg my coursemates... haiyah still no revelations... the text given were full of technical mambo-jambo for all i know, it may have been written in German.. i read 1st para & re-read it again to digest and then moved on to 2nd para then i realised that i'd completely lost the meaning & so i had to re-read the 1st para all over again...

A fren said she is having a similar prob. She attributed this phenomenal yet common condition to long-ago-school-leaver-itis... I dunno if she's right but i hope this epidemic is not virulent..it isn't as if a shot of antibiotics can cure it... urghh.. and i'm still having the physical remnants of phleghmatic coughs and runny nose..which resulted in me trailing a line of tissue papers in my wake (don't worry i picked them up already...littering is an offense)

In spite of all these challenges..i'm very grateful that i had this chance.. it is an opportunity for me to go in depths into the world of special needs & exceptional children...besides, compared to the 1st bacth, we're having it pretty easy... The 1st batch had to work & complete the course requirements at the same time..boleh kenoneng dibuatnyer...

Now, feeling relatively better, i've to soldier on with my tutorials...thanks for the du'a kind friends.. Till we meet again, God willing!

Tuesday, June 19

anything? whatever...


When we go out for a bite, with all variety of food available out there..we can be spoilt for choice... and sometimes when you're really hungry but you really have no idea what to eat and your partner is feeling about the same, the discussion on where & what to eat can lead to an all out war if one's not careful...


Picture this, we're at the counter trying to order some food or perhaps with a wait-person taking down our order..we'll look at the menu, flip it to the last page & back to the front, stomachs thundering, look at each other, look at the menu again & finally I ask, "so what are you gonna eat, hubbi?" Hubbi shrugs his shoulder, look at his menu & say "aah you decide laah...anything also can..." Grrr..then I go, "they don't sell anything.." then Hubbi turns the table around and ask me "ok so what do you wanna eat?" & i'll be like "watever.." Hubbi goes "and what makes you think they sell whatever?" It's kinda funny typing this up but in the heat of the ravenous moment, the phrase a hungry man is an angry man is an understatement of the century...pfftt...


but hey, waydeminit...what's this??



hah...they do sell Anything and Whatever now...

Monday, June 11

Close call

I had been putting off writing about our trip to PK & KL for abt 2 wks now... & just when tonight I thot it's now or never, i'm afraid the idea might not even see the light of day (pun intende here) Why? Well, something happened today that took my mind up totally... (i count my lucky stars folks that IT was only my mind .. )

MIL & I went out today.. since her legs are not giving her much problem, it was a good day to be out & about town... I sent her back at around 6pm & after 'Asr prayers I quickly head home. You know the escalator heading up towards Causeway pt/MRT station from Woodlands Interchange, how high it was..? & If you don't, well.. it was about 2x the usual mrt escalator height...pret-ty steep there... a guy was standing 2 steps up from in front of me & there was a nother guy infront of him we were all following escalator riding regulations by standing on the left hand-side.. about 3/4 up, the 1st guy suddenly dropped onto the guy in front of me & in a split second both of them were pushed on top of me. I only had 1 hand on the railing and the other was holding a plastic bag filled with my favourite things (3 thick library books & food). I yelped, bent my knees and lowered half of my body (all those boring facts abt the laws of the gravity came into play here, guys..) the other half of my body were flailed to the back..All praises to Allah, before we reached the top, the guy in front of me managed to stabilize himself and the guy who just dropped onto him like a sack of potatoes...(I think he blacked out for i noticed him rubbing his head) both of them apologized and i was just too shocked so i just mumbled something i wasn't even sure what... I looked down and some other people below us were also rubbing their chest relieved perhaps it didn't turn out to be a stampede or perhaps in this case, a rolling-pede?

Guys, seriously...before this i used to not care abt the public announcement ..you know the ones...where u're supposed to take the lift if you're feeling unwell or carrying loads of stuff? So, before we "aw,shucks-no-it-won't-happen-to-me" , think..what if there are kids behind? pregnant ladies? the elderlies? what kind of a tra-domino-gic effect we could start...When I looked down the escalator, the notion that we could have rolled down & knocked people down like bowling pins, literally shook my knees..i had to sit down for a while...& what if bits of my clothes were stuck in between the gaps there...urgghh.. while recounting the incident to hubbi, my over-active imagination is working overtime (oh so not helping) that I cried and cried... Hubbi held me and kept saying sorry but i knew it wasn't his fault...it's no one's fault.. it just show how things we took for granted can turn ugly in a split second.. so guys, be careful okay... & please, stay behind the yellow line..!

Wednesday, April 11

15 New Items on My Amazon Wish-list

(This blog entry was automatically generated by Multiply's Wish-list Cross-posting beta feature.)

Below are items recently added to my Amazon wish-list. If you are familiar with anything below and have any comments or alternate suggestions, please leave a reply.

Click here to see my full and current wish-list.











A Thousand Splendid Suns
Manufacturer: Riverhead Hardcover
Price: $15.57

Learn More










The Memory Keeper's Daughter
Manufacturer: Penguin (Non-Classics)
Price: $5.95

Learn More










Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows (Book 7)
Manufacturer: Arthur A. Levine Books
Price: $18.89

Learn More










You Suck: A Love Story
Manufacturer: William Morrow
Price: $12.25

Learn More










Island of the Sequined Love Nun
Manufacturer: Harper Paperbacks
Price: $2.38

Learn More










My Sister's Keeper: A Novel (Picoult, Jodi)
Manufacturer: Atria
Price: $12.75

Learn More










The Goldfish Went on Vacation: A Memoir of Loss (and Learning to Tell the Truth about It)
Manufacturer: Trumpeter
Price: $7.00

Learn More










Only Forward
Manufacturer: Spectra
Price: $3.48

Learn More










A Dirty Job: A Novel
Manufacturer: William Morrow
Price: $6.99

Learn More










Waiting for Daisy: A Tale of Two Continents, Three Religions, Five Infertility Doctors, an Oscar, an Atomic Bomb, a Rom
Manufacturer: Bloomsbury USA
Price: $11.97

Learn More










Postcards
Manufacturer: Scribner
Price: $1.50

Learn More










Bloodsucking Fiends
Manufacturer: Harper Paperbacks
Price: $6.59

Learn More










The Stupidest Angel: A Heartwarming Tale of Christmas Terror, Version 2.0
Price: $9.99

Learn More










The Lust Lizard of Melancholy Cove
Manufacturer: Harper Paperbacks
Price: $6.49

Learn More










Spares
Manufacturer: Harper Collins Publishers
Price: $10.99

Learn More

sekali ku tepis, *kelepap* dia jatuh atas muka direktor ahmad nisfu....


had more time to think of my previous post... yeah, i was angry... now more befuddled & exasperated...


hadn't meant to sound as mean-spirited or bad-tempered as it was supposed to be and never would i use this platform to give out personal lashings before lashing out directly to the person(s) involved. But i had exhausted all means of communication with the intended. Yet the intended buat dono jer.. worse still, the intended wanted..no, demanded to be treated as an adult...well, in my book, to qualify, you first have to be an adult or at least "try to act like one"...haiz...

i'll not brood on it....gotta keep moving forward anyhows... so am praying to be back more cool & collected (refer to figure below)


Saturday, April 7

070407 ---- 1152



you say one thing and then you go ahead and do another



grow up,


get over yourself...


the world doesn't revolve around you




Tuesday, March 27

who? me?

My cool celebrity look-alike collage from MyHeritage.com. Get one for yourself.



funnily enuf, when i used another pic, my look-alike posse totally changed!

Thursday, March 22



Sometimes, life can feel like a job,
But sometimes, if we're lucky, our job can feel like life.
(chrisina adams)

Wednesday, March 21

you follow your head when it comes to romance

You follow your head when it comes to romance
Maybe you've been burned before, or maybe you're just too busy changing the world, but when it comes to your love life, you definitely look before you leap. While you might not be cautious in every aspect of your life, love is an area you tread on lightly. Let's face it, you'd rather have a little more control over your emotions, but they're sometimes hard to pin down. So rather than get lost in them, you, and many of us, probably prefer to focus on other aspects of your life.It's not that you don't want love to wash over you so you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. It's just that you'd probably like to fall in love when it best fits into your calendar. Still, with your smarts, you're probably able to sense when you're up for a little romancing and when you're not. Just remember, if you're ever on the fence, you want to fall off on the side where someone's going to catch you. Especially if he's tall, dark, and handsome.


Do You Follow Your Heart or Your Head?

Brought to you by Tickle

Monday, March 19

At a pharmacy,

Boy : hmmm.... I donno what's good... (while fingering boxes of condoms)
Girl : Aiyah...whatever laaa..no need to be so fussy one...
Boy : u know which one better?


The pair then looked this way & that and blushed hotly when realised that their "discussion" was not privy to just themselves... both chucked the boxes they were holding back to the shelves and made for the exit as if their pants were on fire....
Perhaps the reason people were staring at them aside from the fact that they were loud & behaving rather intimately, might be cos they looked so very young...like secondary sch students...maybe appearances can be deceiving..but looking back at their level of conversation....i think
not!

Friday, March 16

Thursday, March 15

Why It Was None Of Your Business (The Sequel)

Gosh, i spoke too soon...

I'm having a big fat dose of this too, right this minute.... worse, i can't walk away from her...have to tahan this person until lunchtime...God help me! She's sitting right across me and asked me all sorts of question.... why r u temping? are u waiting for admission to any uni? what are u eating? (I was just abt to munch on a piece of bread i brought from home, nasib baik tak tersedak) where do u stay? what time u get up? what time u go to sleep??

AARRGGHHHHHHHHH!!! Just leave me the hell alone, woman!!!!!!!!